Men: the secret to a great sex life - know your body

How can men continue to be virile and desirable as they age? What do men's virility and staying safe in today's sexual environment have in common? Should gay and trans men have special concerns when it comes to their sexual health? How can men - young and old - stay safe in today's sexual environment?

Dr. Dudley Danoff, board-certified urologist and author. Photo provided.

These are just a few of the questions answered in The Ultimate Guide To Male Sexual Health by Dr. Dudley Danoff, a board-certified urologist with more than thirty years of experience and the founder and president of the Cedars-Sinai Medical Center Tower Urology Group.

“A powerful connection exists between how men perceive their penises and how they perceive themselves,” Dr. Danoff explains. “A man who is unsure of himself sexually or has had embarrassing sexual experiences will be shadowed in other aspects of his life by insecurity and self-doubt.”

Dr. Danoff says, “Self-doubt is the biggest enemy of the penis! The nature of the brain-penis connection is so delicate that a lack of confidence or a fear of failure can easily create a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think you are abnormal, if you are anxious about performing adequately, if you are afraid that your partner might be disappointed, chances are you have already worried yourself into creating the very problems you fear.”

So how can you make sure you have great sex every time? Whether you are young, middle-aged or old; rich or not-so-rich; straight, gay, bisexual or transgender; or married, single, divorced or widowed, you first need to learn the biological facts about the male genital system and the mental and emotional connection that exists between you and your penis.

Are you among the huge numbers of men who think they are deficient in some way or assume something is wrong with them or fear they are abnormal? The fact is, only a small percentage of sexual dysfunction is the result of bona fide medical problems.

The majority of men have perfectly normal apparatuses, and whatever problem they have, or think they have, originates in their minds. This is the case even if the problem expresses itself in a penis that refuses to obey orders.

An injection of simple education and a strong dose of reassurance are astonishingly effective at curing these types of penis problems. And that’s why Dr. Danoff wrote The Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health.

In this book, you will learn the top five questions every gay man should be asking his doctor but isn’t. Gay, straight, bi or trans, men of all sexual preferences sometimes feel embarrassed talking to their doctors about sex.

1. How will a prescription for an erectile dysfunction medication interact with others drugs I’m taking?

2. As a gay man, do I need to worry about HPV?

3. If my partner has passed an AIDS test, is it all right for us to have unprotected sex?

4. Is everything normal down there?

5. Should I have a PSA?

You’ll also learn the truth about men and sex as they age and how men can stay safe in today’s sexual environment.

Men have good reason to be concerned about sexually transmitted diseases, whether a viral infection such as herpes; a bacterial infection like syphilis; or HIV/AIDS, as these diseases have been on the increase in recent years.

The time to worry about sexually transmitted diseases is not at the moment of intercourse. You need a game plan long before you get into bed with someone. To stay safe in today’s sexual environment, men must communicate with their partners about their sexual histories, know the basics about the most commonly transmitted diseases, and always take precautions to protect themselves.

The real secret of penis power is embodied in this simple premise: If you become absolutely at ease with your penis, you and your partner will have more satisfying sex and the quality of your life will dramatically change for the better.

Dudley Seth Danoff, MD, FACS, is a graduate of Princeton University and Yale University Medical School. He has taught on the clinical faculty of the UCLA School of Medicine for more than 25 years and is the founder and president of the prestigious Cedars-Sinai Medical Center Tower Urology Group in Los Angeles.

Copyright The Gayly – December 15, 2017 @ 9:50 a.m. CST.